You’ve held everyone together. Who’s holding you?
Trauma and Couples Therapy In person and Online Grass Valley, California
Trauma therapy for women and men who carry too much, and Couples ready to find their way back to each other.
30+ years of experience | In-person in Grass Valley | Online throughout California
“Windy is a deeply sensitive and intelligent guide through life’s challenges.”
Cynthia W. LCSW
When Connection Feels Out of Reach
You’re tired of feeling disconnected, even while you hold everything together. You want to feel more at ease with yourself, more understood in your relationships, and able to express what you need without guilt or fear.
You’ve read the books and listened to the podcasts. You understand your patterns better than ever. But knowing why you react doesn’t help in the moment you’re overwhelmed, shutting down, or caught in the same painful argument.
Understanding is one thing. Knowing how to change is another.
Does this sound familiar?
You put others’ needs first and struggle to make room for your own.
You second-guess yourself or worry that you’re somehow not enough.
You and your partner keep having the same arguments without feeling heard.
You miss the affection, trust, or closeness you once shared.
You understand your patterns, and you repeat them anyway.
You don’t have to keep living this way. These patterns were learned, and you can change them.
Clients often tell me that over time:
They say no without the guilt spiral, and the people who matter adjust.
They rest without feeling like they’re failing someone.
Old memories lose their charge, so the past stops hijacking the present.
They notice when they’re getting triggered, and come back to themselves faster.
Couples catch the old fight before it takes over, repair sooner, and feel like a team again.
They feel more like themselves, steadier, lighter, and more connected.
What becomes possible
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Hey, I’m Windy
A lifelong seeker, open-hearted, and a quiet rebel with a passion for justice.
For over 30 years, I've helped women, couples, and trauma survivors heal old wounds and change the patterns that keep them stuck. I'm especially drawn to people who give so much of themselves that they lose touch with what they need.
Life has given me plenty of chances to practice what I teach. I've navigated hard chapters, started over, and raised a family, and I've learned that courage often means simply choosing a different path.
Meditation keeps me grounded, music feeds my soul, and horses, dogs, and nature steady my heart.
I believe life is meant to be lived fully, with authenticity, courage, and connection. And I love helping people find their way toward that.
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s about finding your way back to yourself.”
Support For You and Your Relationships
Individual Therapy
Reconnect With Yourself
Find relief from anxiety, heal old wounds, and develop greater emotional balance and self-trust.
Somatic EMDR Therapy
An Integrated Approach
Somatic EMDR helps you process unresolved experiences, ease emotional distress, and move beyond old patterns toward greater balance, freedom, and connection.
Couples Therapy
Rediscover Relationship Connection
Move beyond recurring conflict, rebuild trust, and create more closeness and understanding.
Trauma & Addiction Therapy
Find a Different Way Forward.
Heal underlying trauma, move beyond addictive patterns, and develop healthier ways of coping while rebuilding self-trust and connection.
“Your life begins to change when being true to yourself becomes more important than being who others expect you to be.”
Choosing Us
Couples Intensive
A Dedicated Space to Reconnect.
When recurring conflicts and emotional distance leave you feeling stuck, sometimes you need more than another weekly conversation.
Choosing Us offers focused, personalized time to understand the patterns keeping you apart, develop new ways of communicating, and begin rebuilding trust and connection.
Beyond Understanding. Toward Lasting Change.
Understanding why you feel or react the way you do is important. But insight alone doesn't always change deeply rooted emotional and relationship patterns.
My approach integrates EMDR, somatic therapies, and relationship-focused work to help individuals and couples create changes that go beyond the therapy room.
For individuals, this means greater emotional balance, stronger boundaries, and a deeper connection with yourself.
For couples, it means learning to navigate difficult moments with less reactivity, greater understanding, and renewed emotional connection.
Our work is collaborative, personalized, and guided by what matters most to you.
“I refer people all the time. She is the best Nevada County has to offer in my humble opinion.” C.F.”
What to expect !
A free 15-minute call. We talk about what's going on and whether we're a good fit. No pressure to decide.
Your first session. We get clear on the patterns that keep repeating and what you want to change.
The work itself. For individuals, we heal old wounds and the parts of you that learned to carry too much. For couples, we untangle the cycle you get caught in and practice new ways to talk, repair, and reconnect. Throughout, we work with your mind, your body, and your relationships, not just your insight.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
You don't have to navigate life's challenges alone. Let’s talk about what’s going on and what could be different.
In-person in Grass Valley | Online throughout California