You’ve held everyone together. Who’s holding you?
Trauma therapy for women and men who carry too much, and Couples ready to find their way back to each other.
Trauma and Couples Therapy in Grass Valley and Online
Windy DiPietro, MA, LMFT, is a California-licensed marriage and family therapist (#34473) with over 30 years of experience. She offers private-pay therapy for women and men who carry too much, and for couples, in person in Grass Valley and online throughout California, using EMDR, Relational Life Therapy, the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping), IFS-informed parts work, and Somatic approaches.
When Connection Feels Out of Reach
You’re tired of feeling disconnected, even while you hold everything together. You want to feel more at ease with yourself, more understood in your relationships, and able to express what you need without guilt or fear.
You’ve read the books and listened to the podcasts. You understand your patterns better than ever. But knowing why you react doesn’t help in the moment you’re overwhelmed, shutting down, or caught in the same painful argument.
Does this sound familiar?
You put others’ needs first and struggle to make room for your own.
You second-guess yourself or worry that you’re somehow not enough.
You and your partner keep having the same arguments without feeling heard.
You miss the affection, trust, or closeness you once shared.
You understand your patterns, and you repeat them anyway.
“Windy is a deeply sensitive and intelligent guide through life’s challenges.”
Cynthia W. LCSW
You don’t have to keep living this way. These patterns were learned, and you can change them.
Clients often tell me that over time:
They say no without the guilt spiral, and the people who matter adjust.
They rest without feeling like they’re failing someone.
Old memories lose their charge, so the past stops hijacking the present.
They notice when they’re getting triggered, and come back to themselves faster.
Couples catch the old fight before it takes over, repair sooner, and feel like a team again.
They feel more like themselves, steadier, lighter, and more connected.
What becomes possible
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Where Do You See Yourself?
Individual Therapy
When You Carry Too Much
“I’m the one who holds everything together.”
You take care of everyone, anticipate every need, and feel guilty resting. Together, we help your system stop acting as if everything depends on you.
Say no without the guilt spiral
Rest, receive, and make room for your own needs
You feel anxious, take care of everyone, and feel guilty resting.
Couples Therapy
Trauma & Addiction Therapy
“I know where it comes from, but I still react.”
Old wounds keep shaping your reactions, or you cope by staying busy, working, or using substances. EMDR and somatic therapy reach what talking alone hasn’t.
Let painful memories lose their charge
Build healthier ways to cope and feel safe in your body
Trauma & Addiction Therapy
Couples Therapy
“We keep having the same fight.”
You love each other, but the same argument keeps pulling you apart. Using Relational Life Therapy and the Developmental Model, we break the cycle and rebuild closeness.
Catch the old fight before it takes over
Repair sooner and feel like a team again
Shutting down or feeling overwhelmed when conflict starts
Who I Work With
I work with women and men who carry too much, and with couples ready to change their patterns.
I’m not the right fit for people in active crisis, couples dealing with ongoing physical violence, or those who need psychiatric medication management or a higher level of care. I work with adults only and am private pay. I’m glad to help you find the right support.
“Not sure where you fit, or a therapist looking for your own therapy? Let’s talk.
Your life begins to change when being true to yourself becomes more important than being who others expect you to be.”
Member California Association of Marriage and Family Therapy
Women’s Centered Coaching
Best in Nevada County 2016
Certified Calling in the One Coach
Trained in EMDR Levels 1&2 1997
Understanding is One Thing
Understanding is one thing. Knowing how to change is another.
You've read the books and listened to the podcasts. You understand your patterns better than ever. But insight alone doesn't calm a nervous system that is flooded, shut down, or braced for the next argument.
That's why my work goes beyond talking. I combine EMDR, somatic therapy, parts work, and relationship-focused therapy, so change happens in your body and your relationships, not only in your thinking.
Our work is collaborative, personalized, and guided by what matters most to you.
“I refer people all the time. She is the best Nevada County has to offer in my humble opinion.” C.F.”
Hey, I’m Windy
A lifelong seeker, open-hearted, and a quiet rebel with a passion for justice.
I’ve spent thirty years sitting with people in their hardest moments: individuals, couples, and trauma survivors who are tired of the same old patterns. Watching someone finally feel free of what’s been weighing them down is still my favorite part of the work. I'm especially drawn to people who give so much of themselves that they lose touch with what they need.
Life has given me plenty of chances to practice what I teach. I've navigated hard chapters, started over, and raised a family, and I've learned that courage often means simply choosing a different path.
Meditation keeps me grounded, music feeds my soul, and horses, dogs, and nature steady my heart.
I believe life is meant to be lived fully, with authenticity, courage, and connection. And I love helping people find their way toward that.
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone different. It’s about finding your way back to yourself.”
Choosing Us
Couples Intensive
A Dedicated Space to Reconnect.
When recurring conflicts and emotional distance leave you feeling stuck, sometimes you need more than another weekly conversation.
Choosing Us offers focused, personalized time to understand the patterns keeping you apart, develop new ways of communicating, and begin rebuilding trust and connection.
What to Expect
A free 15-minute call. We talk about what's going on and whether we're a good fit. No pressure to decide.
Your first session. We get clear on the patterns that keep repeating and what you want to change.
The work itself. For individuals, we heal old wounds and the parts of you that learned to carry too much. For couples, we untangle the cycle you get caught in and practice new ways to talk, repair, and reconnect. Throughout, we work with your mind, your body, and your relationships, not just your insight.
Common Questions
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I’m a private-pay practice and don't bill insurance directly. Individual sessions are $180 for 75 minutes, and couples sessions are $225 for 90 minutes.”
[I can provide a superbill you can submit for possible out-of-network reimbursement.]
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Yes. I see clients in person in Grass Valley and online anywhere in California through a secure video platform. Sessions are available Tuesday through Friday.
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You tell me a little about what's going on, ask your questions, and we see whether working together feels right. There's no pressure to book.
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That's very common. The free call is a low-pressure way for both of you to see what the work is like before committing.
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EMDR helps your brain process painful experiences so they lose their emotional charge. Somatic therapy works with what you feel in your body, not just what you think. Together, they reach patterns that talking alone doesn't.
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It depends on what you're working on. Some people come for a focused few months; others stay longer for deeper work. We check in regularly about how it's going.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
You don't have to navigate life's challenges alone. Let’s talk about what’s going on and what could be different.
In-person in Grass Valley | Online throughout California